Good evening friends.

If you remember a few weeks ago I wrote upon the history of “The One Night Stand” and the psychology of which it was created upon. Tonight I am going to write about the solution to “The One Night Stand” and how to unwind all the regrets and the “How could I’s” that take place.

First lets review again how “The one Night Stand Was” created.  It goes something like this.  A man decides to ask a woman out for dinner and drinks.  The same is to say he is saying, “I could be interested in having intimacy with you within two weeks or less”  — The woman says, sure dinner and drinks sounds nice.  The same is to say she is saying: “I’m open to the idea of possible intimacy with you within two weeks or less”

OK, now they both go out on their first date and its going beautifully.  They have a lot in common, They are talking up a storm, they’re laughing and they feel very attracted to one another.   Now they are both saying to themselves, “this is really great date, I think I could really like this person”  — The next thoughts they’re having goes something like this.  We are going to see each other again anyway and become intimate in the very short term, we’re  both adults,  so why don’t we just turn date number one, into date number three and just be intimate tonight ?

So the two consenting adults spend the night together and really do like each other.  Here is where the Quandary and Quagmire begins.  When they wake up, she starts thinking to herself now hes not going to like me because he doesn’t respect me. I should have waited at least 3 dates or two weeks and now he will be laughing about me with his friends.

The man is thinking to himself we should’ve waited for a few dates also.  Now she thinks I sleep around with a lot of women and I’m a sleazeball. I told myself I was going to take this slow but I really liked her and we had a strong connection.

Now friends this happens too many times to people that actually really do like each other.  But now with all preconceived notions about the stigma of “The One Stands,” the two people never speak again or see each other other again.

Dr. Harp Seal has the solution for this particular kind of one night stand where the two people really do like each other.  Its actually a very easy fix.  The man calls up the woman and says; “I had a really great time with you the other night, I would love to see you again if you are up to it”  — With one statement like that, it eradicates all the bull_hit notions and fears about what you think you look like or don’t look like, and it brings back into focus where it was when the two you first met.  And from there, you go on date number Two under the auspices that date number one went really great, which it did.  Next thing you know you’re both telling your friends about how great both of you are and happy the two of you are together.

So in conclusion, we defined how “The One Night Stand Came to Be,” and how to unwind it and get back on track to the way it was supposed to be.

Signing off from Puerto Rico on day 213, Dr. Harp Seal for Sammy & Family.

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